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Being the "cause" of someone else's marriage
Posted: Sat Apr 03, 2010 12:26 pm
by Bored, Esq.
I'm sure there are others here who have had experience with this.
So last night I was talking to an old girlfriend...I had been talking to her before, last year, when she suddenly broke off all contact and then I saw that her current BF proposed to her and she accepted. LOL but also: ruh-roh. Vague sentiments of wrongdoing on my part...I found out last night that yes, she married him and he proposed to her after logging into her email/FB accounts (asshole) and seeing our messages to each other. So I feel terribly guilty about this, of course, not in the sense of interfering with her relationship (fuck this current guy) but in the sense of...being the cause of someone else's marriage.
Any of you have similar experiences?
Re: Being the "cause" of someone else's marriage
Posted: Sat Apr 03, 2010 12:28 pm
by Dr Yail Bloor
he logged into her mail/fb? fuck that guy.
Re: Being the "cause" of someone else's marriage
Posted: Sat Apr 03, 2010 12:29 pm
by Bored, Esq.
Yeah, fuck that guy...but it's understandable.
Well...okay, not really. Jealousy makes people do crazy things...
Re: Being the "cause" of someone else's marriage
Posted: Sat Apr 03, 2010 12:29 pm
by From Blintzes to Crepes
I've been the cause of a couple divorces.
Re: Being the "cause" of someone else's marriage
Posted: Sat Apr 03, 2010 12:29 pm
by Bored, Esq.
From Blintzes to Crepes wrote:I've been the cause of a couple divorces.
Hahahaha...yeah.
Re: Being the "cause" of someone else's marriage
Posted: Sat Apr 03, 2010 12:30 pm
by Dr Yail Bloor
its sad and crap, whats even worse is instead of having it out with her he proposes? What a fucking fairy this guy is!
Re: Being the "cause" of someone else's marriage
Posted: Sat Apr 03, 2010 12:30 pm
by Bored, Esq.
People still believe that marriage solves all problems.
Yeah, I know...but I don't really know what to say.
Re: Being the "cause" of someone else's marriage
Posted: Sat Apr 03, 2010 12:32 pm
by Dr Yail Bloor
the fact she said yes is fucking tragic, zero self esteem?
Re: Being the "cause" of someone else's marriage
Posted: Sat Apr 03, 2010 12:33 pm
by Bored, Esq.
Dr Yail Bloor wrote:the fact she said yes is fucking tragic, zero self esteem?
Ummm...looking out for her kids, I think.
Re: Being the "cause" of someone else's marriage
Posted: Sat Apr 03, 2010 12:34 pm
by Dr Yail Bloor
Bored, Esq. wrote:Dr Yail Bloor wrote:the fact she said yes is fucking tragic, zero self esteem?
Ummm...looking out for her kids, I think.
ah you never mentioned kids, nothing makes a woman more desperate to wed/settle than kids.
Re: Being the "cause" of someone else's marriage
Posted: Sat Apr 03, 2010 12:35 pm
by kmfcm
it's not your fault he autocorpsed
Re: Being the "cause" of someone else's marriage
Posted: Sat Apr 03, 2010 12:36 pm
by Bored, Esq.
Dr Yail Bloor wrote:
ah you never mentioned kids, nothing makes a woman more desperate to wed/settle than kids.
Sure, it's just survival.
But these days...I don't really understand why people get married or why they stay in marriages where they hate the other person. I understand it's complex and it isn't easily talked about, but...ack...
I feel bad for putting her in that situation, though...
I don't know one single person who is in a happy marriage.
Re: Being the "cause" of someone else's marriage
Posted: Sat Apr 03, 2010 12:37 pm
by Bored, Esq.
kmfcm wrote:it's not your fault he autocorpsed
True. And I endeavor to see it that way...
Re: Being the "cause" of someone else's marriage
Posted: Sat Apr 03, 2010 12:39 pm
by Dr Yail Bloor
Bored, Esq. wrote:Dr Yail Bloor wrote:
ah you never mentioned kids, nothing makes a woman more desperate to wed/settle than kids.
Sure, it's just survival.
But these days...I don't really understand why people get married or why they stay in marriages where they hate the other person. I understand it's complex and it isn't easily talked about, but...ack...
I feel bad for putting her in that situation, though...
I don't know one single person who is in a happy marriage.
you do now, my wife rules and i am as happy as a pig in shit.
Re: Being the "cause" of someone else's marriage
Posted: Sat Apr 03, 2010 12:39 pm
by Brian P.
She's got kids, spoiled meat. That dude's a sucker.
Re: Being the "cause" of someone else's marriage
Posted: Sat Apr 03, 2010 12:40 pm
by Bored, Esq.
Brian P. wrote:She's got kids, spoiled meat. That dude's a sucker.
He's just another stupid man. They're thick on the ground.
And Bloor: good. I hope you stay that way...
Re: Being the "cause" of someone else's marriage
Posted: Sat Apr 03, 2010 12:42 pm
by kmfcm
Bored, Esq. wrote:Dr Yail Bloor wrote:
ah you never mentioned kids, nothing makes a woman more desperate to wed/settle than kids.
Sure, it's just survival.
But these days...I don't really understand why people get married or why they stay in marriages where they hate the other person. I understand it's complex and it isn't easily talked about, but...ack...
I feel bad for putting her in that situation, though...
I don't know one single person who is in a happy marriage.
I know ONE happy couple
and I know ONE guy who is in a happy marriage
neither involves an American woman
and you actually put her in a GOOD situation
marriage ONLY benefits the woman
Re: Being the "cause" of someone else's marriage
Posted: Sat Apr 03, 2010 12:42 pm
by Bored, Esq.
kmfcm wrote:Bored, Esq. wrote:Dr Yail Bloor wrote:
ah you never mentioned kids, nothing makes a woman more desperate to wed/settle than kids.
Sure, it's just survival.
But these days...I don't really understand why people get married or why they stay in marriages where they hate the other person. I understand it's complex and it isn't easily talked about, but...ack...
I feel bad for putting her in that situation, though...
I don't know one single person who is in a happy marriage.
I know ONE happy couple
and I know ONE guy who is in a happy marriage
neither involves an American woman
Hahaha...yeah, exactly.
Re: Being the "cause" of someone else's marriage
Posted: Sat Apr 03, 2010 12:43 pm
by eyehatethehumanrace
one of my girlfriends left me for another guy, who in turn was nothing but abusive towards her. I guess what goes around comes around.they divorced and she remarried, to a nicer guy who gets along with me pretty well. oddly enough, we're friends to this day. I'm not bitter.
Re: Being the "cause" of someone else's marriage
Posted: Sat Apr 03, 2010 12:46 pm
by Bored, Esq.
eyehatethehumanrace wrote:one of my girlfriends left me for another guy, who in turn was nothing but abusive towards her. I guess what goes around comes around. oddly enough, we're friends to this day. I'm not bitter.
Okay.
But I don't know why you posted this in this thread.
Oh, and:
Re: Being the "cause" of someone else's marriage
Posted: Sat Apr 03, 2010 12:48 pm
by eyehatethehumanrace
Bored, Esq. wrote:eyehatethehumanrace wrote:one of my girlfriends left me for another guy, who in turn was nothing but abusive towards her. I guess what goes around comes around. oddly enough, we're friends to this day. I'm not bitter.
Okay.
But I don't know why you posted this in this thread.
Oh, and:
?
Re: Being the "cause" of someone else's marriage
Posted: Sat Apr 03, 2010 12:48 pm
by Bored, Esq.
Yeah, this thread sucks. My fault.
Re: Being the "cause" of someone else's marriage
Posted: Sat Apr 03, 2010 1:00 pm
by Gunther
From Blintzes to Crepes wrote:I've been the cause of a couple divorces.
I'd like to know how many that you've actually caused. You fucking jerk.
Re: Being the "cause" of someone else's marriage
Posted: Sat Apr 03, 2010 1:02 pm
by Bored, Esq.
I'm guessing this guy has caused all kinds of divorces:
Sexy beast.
Re: Being the "cause" of someone else's marriage
Posted: Sat Apr 03, 2010 1:57 pm
by Friendly Goatus
It's so awkward to see you try and be nice to everyone, Bored. It's like every nice post of yours has a palpable sense of violence just underneath the surface.
